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Model Behavior

May 15, 2013

Lately, I feel like I have been less than patient.  In fact, I have lost my temper and few times.  I have even thrown a tantrum or two.

A few weeks ago I was having a really bad day.  Enough times has past that the details are hazy, but I know that it was one of the top ten bad days in my motherhooding.

The last straw was when my i-phone was dropped in the bath tub.  I lost it.  I stomped, I screamed and I tried to cry, but tears wouldn’t come.  It was kind of an out of body experience where I realized how ridiculous I looked but I just couldn’t hold it in any longer.  As I was apologizing to my five year old about my behavior, he said, ” Yeah mom, you need to go eat some chocolate and read some books about being a good mom.”  I just laughed.  He was so right. I realized that in everything I do, I am teaching my kids.  If I allow myself to freak out, what are my kids learning?  I certainly don’t want them stomping and screaming around the house.  I need to model good behavior and show them how to handle frustrating situations without losing it.  I want to teach them to laugh and make the best of hard situations.  So, to become the kind of parent I want to be, I need to also work on getting myself to be the kind of person I want to be. And if a good mom eats chocolate, as my little guy indicated  then I’ve got that part down!  The rest will probably take some time.

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Three Kids

January 25, 2013

It has been a while.  I have three kids now.  Enough said.

But I am still going to say more.Image

Transitions can be tough.  The first 6 weeks of having three kids was really hard on me.  I felt like I was holding on by the tips of my fingers during a hurricane.  I was recovering, my older kids were adjusting and my baby was nursing and crying and sleeping and nursing some more.

But time passed.  It has now been nearly 5 months and I can almost do most things! When things get discouraging we just have to hold on.  Time passes and things, usually, get better.

Now, I hope that I can share my thoughts and ideas about motherhood once again. It is my favorite job.

Kids Tell the Truth

January 30, 2012

Tonight as I was putting Ryan to bed, he told me that he was thirsty and wanted some water.  I told him that he needed to say please and tell me that I am the most beautiful mom in the world.  He did.

 Good boy.

 So, I got up to get him some water.

 While I was away, Ryan told Brett the following, ” Mom is funny.  And she is pretty, just not all the time.  When she is in her church clothes, she is pretty but when she is in her play clothes, she isn’t.”

Oh my son.  You are so right.  I need to start doing my hair and makeup more than once a week!

Answered Prayers

January 25, 2012

My second child plays so well by himself, it is easy to just let him play while I do what I need to do.  With my first son, I spend lots of time with him, too much maybe, but I want my 2nd to feel like we have a relationship, too.  So, last night I prayed that I would be able to figure out ways to spend more quality time with Luke.  Luke woke up about 12:30 am and didn’t go back to sleep until 4 am.  We spent lots of time together.  I guess my prayer was answered.

A Teachable Moment

December 19, 2011

I am  sharing this story because it was a small, but significant stepping stone in my “growing” as a mom.  And I don’t want to forget it.   Here is what happened : Ryan was outside.  He threw a stick, which broke one of the neighbors Christmas lights.  The first words out of my mouth were ” Ryan!  They are going to be so mad!”.  Ryan jet-packed it into the house and I was left outside to contemplate how to handle the situation.   My first reaction was to just go inside and pretend nothing happened.  Our neighbors were at work  and they would never know what happened – if they even noticed at all.  Once that thought sunk in, I realized that by letting this little thing slide – it would teach my little 4-year-old a big lesson: If you don’t get caught it doesn’t matter what you do.

I realized that if I wanted to teach my boy to be honest and have a good, stong character, I needed to set that example for him.  I went inside and found Ryan laying face down on the couch – I am sure traumatized by my announcing how mad the neighbors were going to be.  I picked him up, and help him in my arms.  When I asked him how he was feeling, the first thing he said was, ” I am afraid that Jesus is going to be mad at me.”

My eyes welled up with tears.  I was so amazed at his tender heart.   We talked about repentance and how it worked.  We talked about making mistakes and how we all make them. We talked about how we need to be responsible for our mistakes and say sorry when we do something – to the people we do something to – and Heavenly Father.  I told him that we would go over to the neighbor’s house, knock on the door and Ryan would have to tell them sorry for breaking their light and he would have to help Dad put up new lights if they needed to be put up.  As those words were coming out of my mouth, I had a put in my own stomach… what if they were made… and they would be mad at me for not watching my kid.  But I said it so we had to do it.   Once we saw their cars in the drive way, we marched over there, knocked on the door and Ryan did it.  He said sorry.  We were both relieved once that was over!

That broken light really helped me see what a power we have as mothers.  We are shaping our children’s characters.  That is a big job!  We must always be aware of those little moments, which can have a big impact on our kids lives. I know I will never forget that moment… and I hope Ryan never does either.

This is how Ryan felt about the whole ordeal…

Wall Art

December 6, 2011

This is dinner time with #2.

I don’t know why we always stick him by the wall. But, we do.

Potty Mouth

December 4, 2011

I have a 4 year old boy.  That mean there is lots of experimentation with “potty language”.  He thinks it is hilarious.  We are working with him to only use those words in reference to that actual… potty thing.   He really listens and tries hard to refrain from using those words.  However it makes it hard when I say things like:

” Oh…poop.”

” You bet your butt”

And the one I really need to kick: ” crap”.

All phrases I say at least once a day.

Ryan is really good about reminding my that we “don’t say potty words”.

Awww….poop… I really need to work on it.

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